Sunday, July 15, 2012
Thursday, July 12, 2012
My Friend, Howard
By Peter Rodman
I’ve met a lot of people in my time. People with big lives. The famous and the infamous, and then some. Heroes…and yes, villains.
But there are people you meet along this journey who've never made headlines, or had a fan club, or been on television, and they're just as monumental in their quiet way as anybody on Earth--because the truth is, this life isn’t about all that other stuff anyway.
Howard Evans, I am so proud to tell you, was one of the dearest souls I’ve ever met--and despite our 27-year age difference, one of my closest friends.
I first met him in the fall of ’04, when I was nervously navigating the rigors of home ownership as a buying 'virgin,' at the tender age of...53!
I live on the corner, and Howard’s house was right behind mine, on the side street.
At first we’d just wave as we cut the lawn, or trimmed the bushes--swapping tips about droughts, and storm drainage and such--but eventually, our personal stories surfaced.
He listened politely to my truncated tales of past media glory…but more importantly, he accepted that I was simply looking forward to these quieter years, in a way many of my longtime friends and relatives couldn’t accept or believe.
Howard took me at face value.
He knew I wanted time, for a more reflective era, both to celebrate and separate myself from all the commotion. There is still a lot of noise in my head, and I simply needed less of the hoo-hah my life had included, up ’til then.
As soft spoken as he was, eventually his own story began to emerge. One day, as I was delivering a few movies for him to watch, he invited me in. “You know,” he said in an almost-whispered tone, as if it were the one secret he couldn't hold in anymore...
“I’m recently widowed.”
Of course other people knew that--but what he was really sharing was that it had been 18 months, and he just was not getting past his grief yet.
The 'confidential' part was that he was still in mourning, despite the face he had been putting on for others. I felt priviledged that he would share such a personal thing with me, a recently new neighbor.
His eyes filled with tears, and he eagerly brought me into the various rooms in their small home of more than 40 years, and introduced me to Dotty.
Everywhere I looked, there were framed pictures of a life obviously well-lived.
Sometimes he’d burst out laughing as he recalled some cute remark she'd made, or some memorable event they'd shared.
“I really miss her,” he said.
He was secure enough to share that grief openly--obviously, for the first time in a long time--and it made me feel pretty darn special.
We hugged, and I told him he needed to know that from then on, I’d always be there for him.
Ours was unlike almost any adult relationship you'll usually find.
We treated each other very...carefully.
Like something precious, you would never want to hurt.
This may sound strange to say, but it felt like we were babies, almost--sharing with awe and wonder, all that we had been through and seen, as adults.
Like my own Dad, Howard was a World War II veteran who’d seen action in ‘the European theatre,’ as they called it back then. But unlike my Dad--who’d flown dozens of missions over Germany as a B-17 Captain--Howard had been on special assignment as the personal driver to Generals and Base Commanders and more. So while my Dad was dropping bombs from overhead, Howard would often be dodging them, to rush some orders or battle plans back and forth, on the back-country roads of Europe!
He regaled me with stories of high-tailin’ it outta trouble along narrow hair-pin turns, ferrying “V.I.P.s” far more important than any rock star or athlete I ever interviewed. We were like father and son, in those moments.
While 'the Greatest Generation' was busy saving the world, Howard Evans was quite literally ‘at the wheel’--driving the highest higher-ups imaginable to their strategy sessions and secret rendezvous.
And it was all because of who he was: A trusted, quiet, unassuming, reliable, no-nonsense, humble man...more than able to keep a secret.
We seldom shared our politics, but always seemed to roll our eyes together in dismay, at the mindless sharp-right turn our country has taken. In truth, I'm sure Howard was a mighty rare jewel among aging WWII veterans below the Mason-Dixon line, in his relatively 'liberal' world-view.
But this was a well-read man, and even though I'd occasionally have to 'clean out' his computer for him, he stayed 'up' on pretty much everything, including technology. He was a man determined to take a nice, big bite out of life's apple.
Just as often, what we shared were the more mundane details of yard work. “I see you’re planting those three trees!" he'd say, by way of greeting me from his own backyard, "Trying to soak up all that water, eh?”
Bingo!
We shared our mutual love of all kinds of music--I made him CD mixes of old standards, or any specific requests he had, and he gave me a whole bunch of his vinyl records--in perfect condition, of course--as he’d long since transitioned away from using a turntable.
He could talk about books, movies, music, philosophy, just anything--and you'd be hard pressed to find a better-informed, more logical mind.
Back then (the mid-zeroes), I’d be traveling two or three times a month to Asia. It got to where I was gone almost 50% of the time--I'd actually taken an apartment in Beijing for a few years--and Howard would watch my house while I was gone--maybe pick up the mail, you know, and just keep an eye out for me.
But an interesting thing happened, as he worked through his grief over Dottie. Howard began ‘seizing the day’ in ways that made me feel (quite literally) like the older man, of the two!
Here was this short, dapper, polite fellow--now in his ‘80s, and fit as a fiddle--obviously anxious to make the most out of each and every day of his remaining years.
His interest as a parishioner in the Vine Street Church grew to where he was eventually named Treasurer.
He golfed! He walked! He worked out!
He even out-did me at travel...enough to where I began picking up his mail, as often as he was mine!
Always, he remained as natty a dresser as you’d ever see--as handsome in his neatly pressed short-sleeved shirts and slacks as any other guy might be in a three-piece suit.
We’d haunt the local Chinese lunch buffet every week or two, and once or twice he persuaded me to go golfin’ with him across town.
I brought him home a ‘Big Bertha’ driver he seemed to like, and his game improved...so I eventually got a whole set of lefty clubs myself! (Those, you will find safely stored under the brown-recluse webs, in my garage.)
We talked for hours of Chet Atkins, and Tony Bennett, Ed Ames, and more.
In short, he was the best neighbor you could ever have.
Pretty soon, he was sharing something even more special: Howard Evans was falling in love again!
He’d gone head-over-heels for a spark-plug of a woman named Eva, and when I finally met her, I could absolutely understand why they were perfect for each other.
She exudes the kind of happy, upbeat 'live-for-today' spirit that’s just so contagious you can’t help but smile, whenever she’s around.
Eventually, there came a day when Howard told me he’d actually popped the question. "You ol' devil!" I said. (Eva was over ten years his junior!) He said he definitely wanted me to be there when they got married, and I was very excited to go.
Maybe I’d played a song or two of mine for Howard somewhere along the way, but I don’t really remember that too much. (Most of what I found interesting was his life, so maybe that's why I can't remember when or how many I ever played him. Maybe a couple; I'm shy about that, and only that!)
Still...I don’t know what got into me...but the next thing I knew, a whole new song popped out of me, perfectly describing both our relationship and theirs.
Howard sat on my couch one afternoon, and I surprised him with it. I don’t think I’ve ever reached an audience any better than I did that day.
By the end of it, we were both crying!
I knew he’d be movin’ across town, and this was partly like a sad 'going-away' present, as I saw it...but also a celebration of the best couple I knew.
He asked if I’d sing it at the wedding, and I did.
He asked me to do it again at the reception, and I did.
He had me bring my guitar over to their place, a few months later when we were having dinner, and play it again.
Each time, Howard unabashedly let his eyes well up with love, hearing the story he'd actually lived. For their wedding gift, I eventually assembled a whole bunch of pictures I’d taken of them, and got one of those scrolling picture frames (they were kinda new back then), adding the song as the background.
“The sound on that thing’s not so good,” he confided. (He was right! You could always count on Howard's honest appraisal.)
Soon enough, I recorded a version on CD for them so he'd have one forever, and I brought it over during one of Eva’s terrific home-cooked dinners. This was his story, and I never felt I owned the song at all. I don't even know where it came from.
To me, it'll always belong to Howard Evans:
“Sometimes, when life goes wrong
Every song seems sad;
Two lifelong loves…gone--
So long, to all they had.
Two old friends, found again,
Taking time to heal;
God works in wond'rous ways
To give them something real…”
[Click HERE, to hear: "HE KNEW" *]
Anyway, I think I’ll stop right there.
Eva called tonight, to give me the sad news.
I had no idea he was sick.
Howard died last Friday, July 6th...exactly 46 years to the day, after my own Dad.
He was 87--and as we giggled on the phone, the way people sometimes do even in these moments, Eva and I agreed that nobody would ever have guessed his age.
"We really had a good time," she added...just as upbeat as ever.
As for me, I'm kinda heartsick to have missed his last call, a couple weeks back--but hopeful that he got to hear my return message, in which I told him I loved him.
"Oh, I'm sure he did," she said. (I knew she meant that in the larger sense.)
Nope, I’m not sure he ever heard that particular message--but like the song says...“He Knew.”
I’ll miss you, my friend.
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Copyright 2012 by Peter Rodman. All Rights Reserved.
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*Words & Music Copyright 2006/2012 by Peter Rodman.
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| Eva and Howard Evans, on their wedding day. Vine Street Church, Nashville, Tennessee August 12, 2006 When Howard found Eva, he knew All would be well in the world, again He could just tell it would never end Love isn’t often so true When Howard found Eva, And Eva found Howard... When Howard found Eva, he knew.* |
Thursday, June 28, 2012
The Rescue Dog
By Peter Rodman
When you get a pet these days, here’s the first question your friends ask you:
“Is it a rescue dog (or cat)?”
Your answer had better be “yes,” unless you want a stern lecture from your friends.
And that’s probably a good thing.
Peer pressure plays a very important part in saving the animals already out there. We all know it helps discourage the needless proliferation of countless more puppy (or kitty) mills.
But here’s the greatest 'animal rescue' story I’ve ever personally witnessed...and it happened just this afternoon--right here, on a busy street in Nashville, Tennessee.
As those of you here in town already know, Thursday was (by far) the hottest day of the year. (So far. Friday is expected to be even worse.)
Anyway, the ACTUAL temperature hit 104...so when my friends invited me out for a cool beverage or two at Nashville’s storied Sunset Grill, I was only too happy to oblige.
I arrived at around 6 o’clock, when the temperature was holding steady at 102.
The heat was impactful (to say the least) as I exited my 1990 freon-powered, 4-door Honda Meat Locker DX. (Note: The Meat Locker is a rare model that very much resembles an Accord, with a few strategically ignored dents. In other words, I like to keep the AC up kinda high.)
And I have no idea what was goin’ on in Hillsboro Village, but it’s been a long time since parking places were so hard to find, at such an early hour.
The place was packed.
Anyway, I was pleased to find my friends Joe and Donna at the bar, so I plunked myself down next to them and ordered a drink. Four or five of their other friends were there, too.
I was sorta late to the party, you might say.
Two of them went outside for a cigarette, and next thing I knew, there was a lot of animated commotion.
Apparently someone had spotted a small puppy alone in a sweltering car, across the street from the restaurant.
Although the windows of the car were open, the animal was lethargic, near-delirious, and very, very hot.
Normally, dogs don’t really “sweat”--but this beautiful little shepherd mix was soaked, scared, and pretty much trapped.
Within a few minutes, the bar patrons had literally rescued the dog--she probably wouldn't have lasted more than a few more minutes. They brought her across the street, provided some much-needed water on a patio area (still mighty hot, but way better than a 150 degree car) and petted and nurtured her, tag-team style, as each of them canvassed the circuit of local establishments, to try to find the owner.
A discussion arose as to whether or not somebody should simply “abscond” with the dog before the jerks returned, and we all agreed we'd deny any knowledge of it ("Dog? What dog?") if that happened.
That’s where Joe and Donna come in.
These two, I know.
They’re some of the most solid human beings you’ll ever find, and though they’re an ‘item,’ each has their own place--and each of them happens to already have three dogs.
Soon enough, Donna had made up her mind to just take the little girl home.
Then someone else at the bar began to offer to adopt her, and the ensuing discussion delayed things long enough that ‘guess who’ showed up.
That’s right: The idiots who already owned this poor pup.
Turned out to be three kids, around 19 or so, all of whom had been drinking somewhere in the area.
The girl who claimed to be the owner of this frightened and dehydrated animal defended herself thusly:
“We were only gone twenty minutes! I should call the police! You can’t break into my car and just take my dog. I rescued her!”
Where to begin…where to begin…
I watched from afar, as several friends tried to explain to this knucklehead that even five minutes on this record-setting 104 degree day in Nashville could be potentially fatal.
The yelling got fairly intense, until my old friend Joe intervened, in his even-tempered but highly persuasive manner.
“Listen,” he began calmly. “Let me explain something to you: You aren’t leaving with this dog. Call the police, if you like. But if you don’t, I will. And trust me: You will be stopped, on your way home.”
I decided to leave the patio and return to the bar, as nobody needed another voice in this situation.
My guess was that the police might come, cite the kids for endangering the animal, and return the dog to their (questionable) care.
But here’s the most amazing part:
A couple minutes later, it was all over.
The know-nothing jerks who’d left the dog in their car (for nearly an hour, it turns out) had suddenly decided, based upon Joe’s advice, to relinquish the dog altogether!!!
Just left. Gave up. Split. Game Over.
It was (literally!) the best possible outcome for all concerned.
But it made me wonder...
What kind of person has so little concern for their pet, that they not only jeopardize its life, but then…just give it away, rather than face the consequences of their actions!?
Obviously, this person had established no emotional no bond with the animal in their care whatsoever.
On the plus side, it was a truly unbelievable result.
I mean, this particular ‘rescue-dog story’ will stay with Joe, Donna, myself, and whomever else witnessed it-- probably for the rest of our living days. I know I'll never think of the phrase "rescue dog" in quite the same way again.
But, for the dumbass dopes who did this?
It’ll probably fade from their youthful memory completely, within a day or two.
For a suffering little puppy, life began anew
at around seven o’clock this evening, outside a treasured local gathering place called the Sunset Grill in Nashville, Tennessee. And as they held her up for my camera, I couldn’t help but ask Joe and Donna, “What are you gonna call her?”
They answered in unison:
“Sunset!”
Well, duuuuh!
God, I love a happy ending.
___________________________
“Is it a rescue dog (or cat)?”
Your answer had better be “yes,” unless you want a stern lecture from your friends.
And that’s probably a good thing.
Peer pressure plays a very important part in saving the animals already out there. We all know it helps discourage the needless proliferation of countless more puppy (or kitty) mills.
But here’s the greatest 'animal rescue' story I’ve ever personally witnessed...and it happened just this afternoon--right here, on a busy street in Nashville, Tennessee.
As those of you here in town already know, Thursday was (by far) the hottest day of the year. (So far. Friday is expected to be even worse.)
Anyway, the ACTUAL temperature hit 104...so when my friends invited me out for a cool beverage or two at Nashville’s storied Sunset Grill, I was only too happy to oblige.
I arrived at around 6 o’clock, when the temperature was holding steady at 102.
The heat was impactful (to say the least) as I exited my 1990 freon-powered, 4-door Honda Meat Locker DX. (Note: The Meat Locker is a rare model that very much resembles an Accord, with a few strategically ignored dents. In other words, I like to keep the AC up kinda high.)
And I have no idea what was goin’ on in Hillsboro Village, but it’s been a long time since parking places were so hard to find, at such an early hour.
The place was packed.
Anyway, I was pleased to find my friends Joe and Donna at the bar, so I plunked myself down next to them and ordered a drink. Four or five of their other friends were there, too.
I was sorta late to the party, you might say.
Apparently someone had spotted a small puppy alone in a sweltering car, across the street from the restaurant.
Although the windows of the car were open, the animal was lethargic, near-delirious, and very, very hot.
Normally, dogs don’t really “sweat”--but this beautiful little shepherd mix was soaked, scared, and pretty much trapped.
Within a few minutes, the bar patrons had literally rescued the dog--she probably wouldn't have lasted more than a few more minutes. They brought her across the street, provided some much-needed water on a patio area (still mighty hot, but way better than a 150 degree car) and petted and nurtured her, tag-team style, as each of them canvassed the circuit of local establishments, to try to find the owner.
A discussion arose as to whether or not somebody should simply “abscond” with the dog before the jerks returned, and we all agreed we'd deny any knowledge of it ("Dog? What dog?") if that happened.
That’s where Joe and Donna come in.
These two, I know.
They’re some of the most solid human beings you’ll ever find, and though they’re an ‘item,’ each has their own place--and each of them happens to already have three dogs.
Soon enough, Donna had made up her mind to just take the little girl home.
Then someone else at the bar began to offer to adopt her, and the ensuing discussion delayed things long enough that ‘guess who’ showed up.
That’s right: The idiots who already owned this poor pup.
Turned out to be three kids, around 19 or so, all of whom had been drinking somewhere in the area.
The girl who claimed to be the owner of this frightened and dehydrated animal defended herself thusly:
“We were only gone twenty minutes! I should call the police! You can’t break into my car and just take my dog. I rescued her!”
Where to begin…where to begin…
I watched from afar, as several friends tried to explain to this knucklehead that even five minutes on this record-setting 104 degree day in Nashville could be potentially fatal.
The yelling got fairly intense, until my old friend Joe intervened, in his even-tempered but highly persuasive manner.
I decided to leave the patio and return to the bar, as nobody needed another voice in this situation.
My guess was that the police might come, cite the kids for endangering the animal, and return the dog to their (questionable) care.
But here’s the most amazing part:
A couple minutes later, it was all over.
The know-nothing jerks who’d left the dog in their car (for nearly an hour, it turns out) had suddenly decided, based upon Joe’s advice, to relinquish the dog altogether!!!
Just left. Gave up. Split. Game Over.
It was (literally!) the best possible outcome for all concerned.
But it made me wonder...
What kind of person has so little concern for their pet, that they not only jeopardize its life, but then…just give it away, rather than face the consequences of their actions!?
Obviously, this person had established no emotional no bond with the animal in their care whatsoever.
On the plus side, it was a truly unbelievable result.
I mean, this particular ‘rescue-dog story’ will stay with Joe, Donna, myself, and whomever else witnessed it-- probably for the rest of our living days. I know I'll never think of the phrase "rescue dog" in quite the same way again.
But, for the dumbass dopes who did this?
It’ll probably fade from their youthful memory completely, within a day or two.
For a suffering little puppy, life began anew
at around seven o’clock this evening, outside a treasured local gathering place called the Sunset Grill in Nashville, Tennessee. And as they held her up for my camera, I couldn’t help but ask Joe and Donna, “What are you gonna call her?”
They answered in unison:
“Sunset!”
Well, duuuuh!
God, I love a happy ending.
___________________________
Copyright 2012 by Peter Rodman. All Rights Reserved.
Monday, May 28, 2012
"Dear World:" (A Dispatch from the Cat Battlefield)
By Peter Rodman
Dear World,
The Long Island Lolita
______________________________Copyright 2012 by Peter Rodman. All Rights Reserved.
As it turns out, ALL cat owners are liars. To a man (well, mostly women) they told me, "Oh, no! Cats won't eat wires! Don't worry about it, you'll be fine!!!"
So eight days ago, I went ahead and got the kitty.
Now, I'm not saying I was manipulated at the adoption place or anything, but when they said 'Ethan' was crying because his sister 'Emily' had been adopted earlier in the day and they'd never see each other again, and then he looked at me like that...well, is this fair at all?
Come on.
And when I repeatedly asked about that "wire concern" of mine, my cat "friends" were unanimous about it.
"You're over-thinking this! Cats don't want wires.
Do it!!!"
So eight days ago, I went ahead and got the kitty.
Now, I'm not saying I was manipulated at the adoption place or anything, but when they said 'Ethan' was crying because his sister 'Emily' had been adopted earlier in the day and they'd never see each other again, and then he looked at me like that...well, is this fair at all?
Come on.
And when I repeatedly asked about that "wire concern" of mine, my cat "friends" were unanimous about it.
"You're over-thinking this! Cats don't want wires.
Do it!!!"
Really? Are you serious??
Because this kitty likes nothing better than to seek out and find the darkest recesses of my house and ATTACK anything that might send us up in flames.
But I am mightily determined to win this cat-and-man battle, so I've come up with one "solution" after another. (Total cost...you don't wanna know.)
First there was the "gutter" solution (hereafter referred to
as Solution #1), wherein Randy, a rather large but amiable guy at Home Depot, kindly spent an hour custom-cutting roof gutters, to help me conceal the tasty wiring, under PC #2.
(Illustrated below)
Then there was my own (ingenius, I thought...) Solution #2, crafted out of a piece of brown sheet-metal I found in the garage, bent around the opening under the equally massive corner desk (and attendant wiring) under/behind the unit I still like to call "The Mainframe." (Which is old enough to actually deserve that title, thankyouvery much.)
(Illustrated below)
The score, so far?
Solution #1 ...sorta succeeded, by more or less boring him to death.
Solution #3? Not hooked up yet.
(Jury's still out.)
But the BIGGEST FAILURE of them all was Solution #2 (that curvy metal thing, pictured somewhere way above and to the left) as I discovered this morning. (Ingenius, I thought...)
After locking my 'attack kitty' out of the bedroom last night (so I could finally get some sleep without ambush face-attacks, after a week), I awoke and simply could not find 'Ethan Buttafuocco' at all.
Now, this is a small house...believe me.
But nowhere was there a peep.
I haven't even tried Solution #3 yet, but I'm skeptical, because already he's foiled every element of my 'Acme Anti-Kitty Security System.'
What to do?
All I know is, I'm writing you from the battlefront, just in case he finds a way to trap me.
If I should disappear forever, let this serve as my written notice to law enforcement that you have your suspect right here at Casa de Rodmano--and his name is 'Buttafuocco.'
What's that you say?
...you need some sort of description?
Fine:
He is grey. He is furry.
...and he is formidable.
.
Because this kitty likes nothing better than to seek out and find the darkest recesses of my house and ATTACK anything that might send us up in flames.
But I am mightily determined to win this cat-and-man battle, so I've come up with one "solution" after another. (Total cost...you don't wanna know.) First there was the "gutter" solution (hereafter referred to
as Solution #1), wherein Randy, a rather large but amiable guy at Home Depot, kindly spent an hour custom-cutting roof gutters, to help me conceal the tasty wiring, under PC #2.
(Illustrated below)
 |
| 'Solution #1' |
Then there was my own (ingenius, I thought...) Solution #2, crafted out of a piece of brown sheet-metal I found in the garage, bent around the opening under the equally massive corner desk (and attendant wiring) under/behind the unit I still like to call "The Mainframe." (Which is old enough to actually deserve that title, thankyouvery much.)
(Illustrated below)
 |
| 'Solution #2' My incredible brown sheet-metal innovation! ...Biggest failure of 'em all. |
 |
| Problem #3: The classic (I thought) TV table, with daintily concealed wiring behind a custom-tailored Chinese silk curtain, cut-to-specs in Beijing. No good. |
 |
| 'Solution #3' Th new, fully-enclosed cabinetry. Whether or not remote controls will penetrate its glass...unknown. |
And last night, they delivered my new 'cat proof' TV console, >>>
at no small expense,which amounts to Solution #3.
(So far.)
at no small expense,which amounts to Solution #3.
(So far.)
The score, so far?
Solution #1 ...sorta succeeded, by more or less boring him to death.
Solution #3? Not hooked up yet.
(Jury's still out.)
But the BIGGEST FAILURE of them all was Solution #2 (that curvy metal thing, pictured somewhere way above and to the left) as I discovered this morning. (Ingenius, I thought...)
After locking my 'attack kitty' out of the bedroom last night (so I could finally get some sleep without ambush face-attacks, after a week), I awoke and simply could not find 'Ethan Buttafuocco' at all.
Now, this is a small house...believe me.
But nowhere was there a peep.
Not even from the forbidden places...or so I thought.
Because the hateful little bastard--okay, wait...did I say that? I'm sorry...I meant, "my beautiful little boo-boo."
Because the hateful little bastard--okay, wait...did I say that? I'm sorry...I meant, "my beautiful little boo-boo."
 |
| Aerial view of the corner behind 'The Mainframe,' where Ethan Buttafuocco remained trapped overnight. |
Because Kitty Boy the Terror, let's call him--managed to make an unprecedented overnight climb atop the Mainframe, then parachute in behind my bent-metal barrier, effectively trapping himself inside an orgasmic bed of 120 volt pasta...shorting-out stereos, computers, modems, cables, and everything else, all in one glorious fell swoop.
Unbeknownst to he, there'd be no escape.
The sheer six-foot Berlin Wall hadn't kept him out...but had kept him IN!
So here we are.
Stalemate.
Unbeknownst to he, there'd be no escape.
The sheer six-foot Berlin Wall hadn't kept him out...but had kept him IN!
So here we are.
Stalemate.
I haven't even tried Solution #3 yet, but I'm skeptical, because already he's foiled every element of my 'Acme Anti-Kitty Security System.'
What to do?
All I know is, I'm writing you from the battlefront, just in case he finds a way to trap me.
If I should disappear forever, let this serve as my written notice to law enforcement that you have your suspect right here at Casa de Rodmano--and his name is 'Buttafuocco.'
What's that you say?
...you need some sort of description?
Fine:
He is grey. He is furry.
...and he is formidable.
.
Yours in Abject Fear,
The Long Island Lolita
______________________________Copyright 2012 by Peter Rodman. All Rights Reserved.
Thursday, March 1, 2012
Feting Davy in Paradise
By Peter Rodman
It didn't matter at all that Micky, not Davy, sang Neil Diamond's "I'm a Believer."
The hand-claps and Davy Jones's tambourine part cut through the night air like a magnet on Wednesday, pulling in passersby from Japan, Australia, California, and who-knows-where-else, until they had formed a huge impromptu circle, right there on the sidewalk.
Oh sure, it was a cheap ploy--this airbrush artist, wearing a triple gas mask, was clapping, dancing and spray-painting his way through a huge mural of Diamond Head, creating kitsch-art that had nothing whatsoever to do with The Monkees, except that they too once embodied all things kitsch.
People hurried over across the street as if summoned by a dog whistle, from down (and completely around) the block, suddenly happy to let whatever else they were doing simply wait, while they figured out what sort of tribute was going on tonight.
And after a short while, when the Monkees' music finally ended, a truly remarkable thing happened.
The crowd--which had been silently tapping their feet, smiling, nodding toward each other, and bouncing babies on their shoulders--broke into spontaneous, robust applause. Not for the spray-paint guy at all...but for the music and memories they had just shared.
It was as if they'd each been specially selected as a representative sampling of humanity, to send their earthly thanks to the diminutive Mr. Jones, wherever he might be in spirit.
Many of us remember the mock 'studio chatter' at the top of Davy's signature single, "Daydream Believer."
The social and cultural divisions have always been that way. Today, we actually call them what they are: Culture Wars.
The Fox News gab fest Red Eye giddily riffed on it late Wednesday night, with host Greg Gutfeld snarkily observing that the Beatles had been copying the Monkees all along. In a strange way, he's right about it not mattering anymore, because none of it does.
Time has a way of blurring the lines anyway, softening all the edges and schmooshing everything together into a highlight reel, so that it hardly matters whom you liked or didn't like, way back when. It only matters that this music always reminds you of...well...way back when.
We give special credence to those who've taken care of themselves over time, and aged gracefully before us. For every Davy Jones, there's another rock hero somewhere who hasn't fared so well in keeping our dreams intact. There's nothing worse than a pot-bellied, balding rock star, insulting all that is pure about memory.
Davy took care of himself, and aged exactly as we would have wanted him to.
So here's to you, Davy.
While 'Eleanor Rigby' haunted the graveyards of Liverpool, and 'Ruby Tuesday' confounded Stones and men alike, 'Sleepy Jean' had no such complications.
Simplicity was Davy's gift to humanity, and he seemed to like it that way.
Translation: Who gives a crap about deeeper meanings!
What's any of that stuff mean to you, Regular Person?
Evidentally things were not so rosy on this mortal plane, when it came to interMonkee relations. And gee, Mike...we'd never even have known that, except for your own words and actions--'cause we'd certainly never got so much as a whiff of negativity out of Davy.
It didn't matter at all that Micky, not Davy, sang Neil Diamond's "I'm a Believer." The hand-claps and Davy Jones's tambourine part cut through the night air like a magnet on Wednesday, pulling in passersby from Japan, Australia, California, and who-knows-where-else, until they had formed a huge impromptu circle, right there on the sidewalk.
People hurried over across the street as if summoned by a dog whistle, from down (and completely around) the block, suddenly happy to let whatever else they were doing simply wait, while they figured out what sort of tribute was going on tonight.
And after a short while, when the Monkees' music finally ended, a truly remarkable thing happened.
The crowd--which had been silently tapping their feet, smiling, nodding toward each other, and bouncing babies on their shoulders--broke into spontaneous, robust applause. Not for the spray-paint guy at all...but for the music and memories they had just shared.
It was as if they'd each been specially selected as a representative sampling of humanity, to send their earthly thanks to the diminutive Mr. Jones, wherever he might be in spirit.
And they weren't just applauding for what was shared on this street corner tonight. No, this was about what was shared in every corner of the world--wherever they'd all grown up, beginning over 40 years ago.
Nobody here had ever heard of Don Kirschner, who assembled the Monkees from a series of TV auditions, resulting in their cynical nickname, 'The Pre-Fab Four.' (A take-off on the Beatles having been called 'The Fab Four.')
Nobody here could name Mike Nesmith or Peter Tork anymore, either.
Micky they kinda knew, but Davy Jones...?
They'd never forgotten; that's what drew this mish-mash of the species toward the music that wafted among the palms and honking cars, on this Waikiki evening.
Micky they kinda knew, but Davy Jones...?
They'd never forgotten; that's what drew this mish-mash of the species toward the music that wafted among the palms and honking cars, on this Waikiki evening.
All the news stories said he'd suffered a sudden, massive heart attack, and some newscasters shook their heads and said, "He was only 66."
But the shock wasn't even so much his death, for some of us.
It was that....wait a second...Davy Jones was 66??
Many of us remember the mock 'studio chatter' at the top of Davy's signature single, "Daydream Believer."
Chip (a recording engineer): "7 A."
Davy: "What number is this, Chip?"
The Rest of Them: "SEV-EN A!"
Davy (sounding stoned): "Okay I don't mean it...don't get excited, man...just 'cause I'm short, I know..."
It was a perfect pop confection, and even this bit of obviously contrived banter--grafted onto the beginning of the 45 after the fact--added another dimension still:
You could actually fake 'credibility!'
If Herman's Hermits could exploit Peter Noone's British accent ("Mrs. Brown," "Henry the Eighth"), so could the Monkees showcase Davy's.
If the Beatles could use an alarm clock sound-effect in a song ("A Day in the Life"), so could The Monkees!
"Don't believe everything you hear," it seemed to say, or maybe it was just the opposite:
DO believe everything you hear! --and that message suited the 'AM' (read: Republican) crowd just fine, as they were already tiring of the so-called 'Generation Gap.'
If the Beatles could use an alarm clock sound-effect in a song ("A Day in the Life"), so could The Monkees!
"Don't believe everything you hear," it seemed to say, or maybe it was just the opposite:
DO believe everything you hear! --and that message suited the 'AM' (read: Republican) crowd just fine, as they were already tiring of the so-called 'Generation Gap.'
Just give us the music, and keep your 'credibility' to yourself.
The social and cultural divisions have always been that way. Today, we actually call them what they are: Culture Wars.
Hawks and Doves. Left and Right. Stoners and straights. Greasers and collegiates. AM and FM.
The Fox News gab fest Red Eye giddily riffed on it late Wednesday night, with host Greg Gutfeld snarkily observing that the Beatles had been copying the Monkees all along. In a strange way, he's right about it not mattering anymore, because none of it does.
Who sang what, who came first, what was 'real', what wasn't...
John Mellencamp came up with one of the great album titles, back in the '80s: Nothin' Matters...And What if It Did?
John Mellencamp came up with one of the great album titles, back in the '80s: Nothin' Matters...And What if It Did?
Time has a way of blurring the lines anyway, softening all the edges and schmooshing everything together into a highlight reel, so that it hardly matters whom you liked or didn't like, way back when. It only matters that this music always reminds you of...well...way back when.
We give special credence to those who've taken care of themselves over time, and aged gracefully before us. For every Davy Jones, there's another rock hero somewhere who hasn't fared so well in keeping our dreams intact. There's nothing worse than a pot-bellied, balding rock star, insulting all that is pure about memory.
Davy took care of himself, and aged exactly as we would have wanted him to.
So here's to you, Davy.
Ever harmless, ever charming, and ever content to entertain without ever challenging us at all.
Me, I preferred the Beatles.
But I've gotta hand it to ya, you never put us through any of the crap they did, in the name of 'art'!
Nobody cared less about your personal life.
There were no Yokos, no drug busts, no primal screams, and no albums full of electronic noises. In fact there was nothing weird--not even a beard.
There were no Yokos, no drug busts, no primal screams, and no albums full of electronic noises. In fact there was nothing weird--not even a beard.
Quite frankly, we knew very little about you.
Your story could have ended in 1967 and the obituaries would have been nearly identical to how they are 45 years later.
You gave us no angst at all; just a three-minute escape from the roiling, dyspeptic waters of life. In fact, it could almost be said that you were the musical equivalent of Pepto-Bismol.
While 'Eleanor Rigby' haunted the graveyards of Liverpool, and 'Ruby Tuesday' confounded Stones and men alike, 'Sleepy Jean' had no such complications.
As we scratch our heads and wonder where all the time went, nothing gains our respect on the 'back nine' of life, more than simplicity.
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| Peter Tork and Peter Rodman backstage at Forest Hills Tennis Stadium, July, 1966. My grandparents let me go, on the condition that I wear a tie (like any member of The West Side Tennis Club would) and remain safely backstage at all times--far away from the 15,000 screaming Monkees fans, out-front. Jimi Hendrix opened the show...but that story, and those pictures, I'm saving for my book. |
The other Monkees have all attempted to grab more 'street cred' over the decades, from Micky's dinner theater forays to Peter's blues bands, to Nesmith's look-at-me-not-participating-in-mere-Monkee-reunions posturing. (Hey, he could afford it: Mike's Mom invented White-Out--the inheritance from which financed his multi-million dollar investment in early 'music video' technology.)
Simplicity was Davy's gift to humanity, and he seemed to like it that way.
John Stewart's lyric for "Daydream Believer' could not have fit Davy any better.
You once thought of me as a White Knight on a steed
Now you know how happy I can be;
Oh, and our good times start and end
Without 'dollar one' to spend;
But how much, baby, do we really need?
The promise of uncomplicated love set to a 'Penny Lane' like beat was a much easier pill to swallow than Paul McCartney's acid daydream about "nurses selling poppies from a tray" or "the fireman rushing in."
While we seemed to spend hours dissecting those trippy Beatle lyrics, here was Davy, taking his female friend aside, to calmly urge her not to worry her pretty little head about any of it:
Cheer up, Sleepy Jean
Oh, what can it mean,
to a daydream believer,
and a homecoming queen?
Translation: Who gives a crap about deeeper meanings!
What's any of that stuff mean to you, Regular Person?
Back then, I'd have argued the point.
I'd have insisted that life is complicated, and we'd all better dig deeper into the meanings and mysteries thereof.
They used to call it "examining your navel," when such pretensions overtook your day-to-day life, and they were right. These days I'll take shallow, thankyouverymuch.
I'd have insisted that life is complicated, and we'd all better dig deeper into the meanings and mysteries thereof.
They used to call it "examining your navel," when such pretensions overtook your day-to-day life, and they were right. These days I'll take shallow, thankyouverymuch.
Mike Nesmith has always alternated between saying the Monkees were "not a real band at all" (whenever they got slammed by the critics) and that they were "truly innovative," as if somehow a sitcom of 'pretend Beatles' presaged MTV.
He's right about one thing: It never takes long to hear the word 'Beatles,' once the word 'Monkees' is in the air.
Nesmith's convenient assessments surfaced again after Davy passed away this week, in his decidedly 'Beatley sounding' tribute on The Michael Nesmith Facebook Fan Page:
Nesmith's convenient assessments surfaced again after Davy passed away this week, in his decidedly 'Beatley sounding' tribute on The Michael Nesmith Facebook Fan Page:
All the lovely people
Where do they all come from?
He continued:
But let's not get ahead of ourselves here.
While it is jarring, and sometimes seems unjust, or strange, this transition we call dying and death is a constant in the mortal experience that we know almost nothing about. I am of the mind that it is a transition and I carry with me a certainty of the continuity of existence.
John Lennon once famously described death as "getting out of one car, and stepping into another."
Apparently Mike remembered the quote.
Apparently Mike remembered the quote.
That David has stepped beyond my view causes me the same sadness that it does many of you.
You might have guessed it would affect a band member even more than it has any mere fan, but in recent years things had seemed frosty between them, with Davy relegated to constant touring in oldies "package tours" (along with Peter Noone and others) as the 'Big Bucks Monkees Reunion Tour' eluded them all, without Mike onboard for the ultimate (financial) ride.
I will think of him as existing within the animating life that insures existence.
Note that he said "animating," not animated--even though the Monkees were widely viewed as a cartoon version of the Beatles back then.
In newspaper parlance, Nesmith more or less 'buries the lead,' in his online tribute. After all the Lennonesque gobbledegook about death-as-transition, he finally offers up a half-hearted apology of sorts, either to Davy or his family, or both:
I will think of him and his family with that gentle regard in spite of all the contrary appearances on the mortal plane.
Evidentally things were not so rosy on this mortal plane, when it came to interMonkee relations. And gee, Mike...we'd never even have known that, except for your own words and actions--'cause we'd certainly never got so much as a whiff of negativity out of Davy.
I was kinda sorry I couldn't White-Out Nesmith's aloof punchline, too:
I have fond memories. I wish him safe travels.
Bleh.
Bleh.
So back to Wednesday night in Honolulu, where the throng who'd never even met Davy Jones seemed far less aloof than his wooly-capped 'bandmate.'
Their spontaneous, heartfelt applause for Davy took place over 6,000 miles away from where he'd been found by his driver, just after arriving at the ranch where he boarded his horses in Florida. It came from a group of complete strangers of all ages and backgrounds--none of whom had any idea he'd once been a professional jockey, and essentially ended up where he began.
But they had all somehow converged on this sidewalk in 'paradise,' just one day after he stopped breathing--and halfway around the world tonight, they gave Davy Jones a darn good send-off, right outside the Princess Kaiulani Burger King.
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Copyright 2012 by Peter Rodman. All Rights Reserved.
Sunday, February 5, 2012
Remembering My Friend, David Hall
By Peter Rodman
I'm not here to write an obituary; I'm sure you can find that somewhere else. I'm just here to try to share a very personal story about some of the crazy, disconnected-but-connected events that led two very unlikely strangers from completely different parts of the country to somehow become "friends for life."
And to do that I'll need to ask your patience, as I'm apt to ramble through my grief.
This-here's a fresh wound.
But if you'd like to save a lotta time, and you just need to know right now what exactly the point is here...
Here's the Short Version:
It's that we are all basically children, at heart. And when you can find the child behind a friend's eyes, then you've really found that person.
[End of Short Version. Read on at your own risk...it's long.]
I have always believed that almost anything we do as 'adults' is complete and total fakery. I've never met a man at any kind of business meeting that wasn't puttin' on airs. Not once.
And all too rarely do you ever meet a man who's willing to shed all that pretense, and just concentrate on sharing his humanity. So it is in that context that I invite you to share in just a little bit of the unfettered joy that was my friend, David Hall.
Dave grew up in Murray, Kentucky…about an hour outside of Paducah toward Nashville, but you wouldn't exactly drive it that way. You might have to back-track some, and (these days) get on the interstate.
He was raised to be humble and he stayed that way--happy just to be an All-American boy who loved baseball, rock ‘n’ roll, and yes...apple pie. Probably millions of other kids Dave’s age shared the same heroes and aspirations, but not so many followed their dreams with such a quietly accurate, easy-going compass.
I grew up about 30 miles from Yankee Stadium, in a town appropriately named “Plainview,” on Long Island. But it might as well have been 1,000 miles away--just like Dave's hometown was--because we never much went to 'the City' anyway. (To be fair to my Dad, he did take me to see a couple of games during the iconic 1961 season...but we invariably left early, to "beat the traffic.")
The point is, whether you were stuck on Long Island or stuck in Murray didn’t matter at all.
All that really mattered to anybody we knew as kids were two people:
1.) Mickey Mantle.
2.) Roger Maris.
Done. That's it.
Nothing else seemed to matter, on those long summer days with baseball gloves and whiffle balls, marking the outer reaches of imaginary 'Yankee Stadiums' in the dirt, hoping to hit the ball over that line just once--and if you did, to trot around the bases affecting Mickey’s trademark hop-a-long limp as if it were your own, which was how you took a bow, whether in Murray, or Plainview, or Peoria, or any other town you choose.
Little boys everywhere knew the name “Mickey Mantle.”
They knew the number 7 then, and they can still tell a fake jersey from a real one (no serifs on that '7', man) and they knew that if you wanted to be like Roger Maris (#9) you had to crop your short shirt-sleeves way up high, to show those goofy 9 year old “guns” of yours.
When the 'game' was over, either your Mom or Grandma would have sandwiches ready, and if your 4th grade homework was done and it was still light out, there just might be time to go flip some baseball cards--a case study in childhood gambling, yes--but also to pore over the details on the backs of those cards---so that by the end of the day, you not only knew who Enos Slaughter and Moose Skowron and Bobby Richardson and Hector Lopez were, but what they batted last year, how many triples they’d hit, and precisely where they fell in the latest Yankee lineup.
And darn, if those Yankees didn’t keep on winnin' every year!
That should put you in the general time-frame of our childhoods.
It was right about then that David Hall of Murray, Kentucky decided he was going to be a lifelong Yankee fan. After all, Mickey Mantle himself grew up in Oklahoma, a fact known by every kid in the South. (Surely, little David had no idea that if you drove due-west on Rural Route 60 from Murray and you just kept on going for about 8 hours, you'd land plumb-in-the-middle of Mickey's boyhood neighborhood, in the little miners' town called Commerce.)
But that was the thing:
For most kids, Mickey Mantle didn't really live anywhere...except in dreams.
And that was right where we wanted him to stay.
Life was good.
Few things outside of baseball ever got the attention of a 9 year old, back then--certainly no ‘current events,’ which was the term for news, at the time.
But all that changed on November 22, 1963, with the Kennedy assassination.
That was the first time (for most of us) that the headlines ever came crashing into our living rooms, with a force we could not ignore.
Our parents did everything they could do, to make Christmas of 1963 a good one--but a definite pall hung over the whole nation, as though not just the President, but youth itself had been shot and killed. And now, some 'old man' took over as President--so here we all were, stuck kind of growing up, but not really there yet.
Most of the ‘playing’ that a kid could do in western Kentucky during that winter involved imagining yourself as an astronaut, or The Man from U.N.C.L.E., or maybe ‘My Favorite Martian.’ That December and January were even chillier than usual, in Murray. It got all the way down near zero a couple times.
Baseball seemed far off, and the grey skies and hard dirt didn’t offer much for a kid “to do” outside anyway, except get hurt and come back in crabbier than you were before. It was like chasin' your own tail, and not a lot of ‘extra’ goodies came around, unless there were some cousins in from out of town, or a very occasional matinee movie.
But there came a day--and Dave could tell you this, and his eyes would light up when he did--when the skies opened up, and everything became clear again.
Like so many millions of kids in towns all across America, David’s life changed on February 9, 1964. I don’t even have to tell most of you what happened on that date, but from the very first note they played on The Ed Sullivan Show, the Beatles seemed to reach right through those round, black-and-white television sets, and into our living rooms. They called it 'the British Invasion,' but in a very real sense, nearly every kid in America was abducted by rock 'n' roll aliens that night.
Our parents were somewhere between flummoxed and dismissive…but that made it even better!
Within hours, every boy who’d seen it was standing in front of a bathroom mirror, quietly combing their hair the opposite way, to check out how this Beatle haircut might look on them. One can only imagine how many parents stood outside the door on that particular Sunday night, demanding to know "What's going on, in there?"
David Hall's house was no exception.
Those Beatle records would arrive in our local stores soon enough, and promises were made ("Please, Mom! I've got to have it!") allowances advanced, and deals struck--if only to have a copy of “I Want to Hold Your Hand” b/w "I Saw Her Standing There" inside the house, to call your very own.
Not being able to afford more than one or two 45s at first, David Hall found himself glued to his transistor radio.
They were staying where? Which one had tonsillitis? Who wrote “Roll Over Beethoven?”
Studying the backs of album covers eventually replaced studying the backs of baseball cards. David was hooked; not uncommon, this.
In fact, it was about as ‘All-American’ as it gets--and it would suit David Hall just fine, to hear that.
Never sure this newfound fascination with music was a ‘career’ thing per say, he eventually graduated high school and enrolled at Murray State University, near enough to home to honor his family roots and look after his obligations as a devoted 'only' son. Then too, MSU was just ‘gone’ enough, for him to look around and see what else the world had to offer.
Unlike many kids, he didn’t seek to travel the world, or amaze anybody with his accomplishments at all. David didn’t even really have a ‘major’ that first year, anyway.
All he knew was that he had fallen in love…with music.
All those nights listening to his transistor radio at home had seen David learning the names of radio big-shots from St. Louis and Nashville, and sometimes Chicago, if the weather was right.
The best thing about Murray State was that it had an actual radio station! He inevitably gravitated to it, putting in his time as a volunteer, until the fateful day when he very nervously switched that microphone to“ON.” They’d even been thoughtful enough to hang an electric ON THE AIR sign, over the door.
"One of the first things I ever said on a 100 thousand watt FM radio station came right after Jack Buck said, 'We pause 10 seconds for station identification. This is the St. Louis Cardinals baseball network,'" David recalled. "I opened the mic in our rarely-used-for-anything-live FM studio and said, 'WAAW-FM, Murray, Kentucky.'"
That was "it" for David Hall.
There’d be no more looking back.
His polite manner had more appeal than he ever knew, and not being one to assume anything, David really didn’t pursue the girls or the party life that much--at least not with near the gusto of his rowdy freshman friends. Oh sure, he’d tag along…but if you wanted his opinion, he’d damn well make sure it was safe to share it, one-on-one, and even then he was not one to cause a controversy, if at all possible.
It just wasn’t in his raising.
All that stuff was other peoples’ fire; his only burning desire was to be on the air and start playin’ great music for all the great people he was sure must be ‘out there.’
Only in that place did David Hall finally find his own voice--and only there, could he make the world the way he wanted it to be.
Others were slaves to fashion, drugs, or danger--but only talking to “that one person out there” brought any real sparkle to the lanky hometown guy, in that faded ol’ Yankee t-shirt.
David Hall was a great son and an only child, whose many cousins today mourn the loss of a childhood pal and confidante, but all would agree--especially Dave--that he was truly ‘born’ on the day he first switched on a radio microphone.
At first imitating the jocks he’d grown up with, he eventually found a voice he liked, listening intently in headphones (a practice he continued throughout his career, always tweaking the sound to perfection) and it was more self-assured than anything he’d ever heard himself say or do before.
He had truly found his home, 'on the air.'
Not that he particularly aspired to any great ‘career heights.'
He wasn’t at all intent, as so many radio dudes are, on jumping from town-to-town just to get ‘bigger’ in bigger markets, until he was ‘King of the Hill.’
(Don’t get me wrong; those are admirable goals indeed, but they weren’t Dave’s goals.)
David Hall’s goals were as simple and as humble as Dave himself:
To be able to touch one listener;
To share as much of the great rock music he loved with as many people as possible;
To avoid insult and controversy, while providing a righteously safe ‘haven’ for his fellow music freaks, known and unknown;
…and perhaps most of all…
To find in his own voice that trusted and steady hand he could believe, himself.
It was David's great gift to everyone he knew and loved, that he worked hard enough to actually become that man.
By the end of his life, he had achieved it all, in full...and yes, "what you heard was what you got."
Never ‘cool’ in that amphibious way that FM DJs can be, but never ‘hot’ in the grating manner of a controversy-seeker, David Hall on the air just seemed to want to be friends.That may account for why so many hearts are broken today, in Nashville and Western Kentucky, and beyond. Even casual listeners felt like they had a friend in David Hall--and the truth is, they did.
If he had an exclusive interview or a brand new record to debut, his manner was never in the realm of “Here comes my Exclusive!”
Rather, it was like your best mate sharing something because he loved you.
“…I just got something very interesting in the mail, this morning…what’ll you hear this!”
He could barely contain his excitement, yes…but it had nothing to do with self-aggrandizement. In fact, to know David personally, you'd hardly guess that his tenure in rock radio was the all-time longest run in Nashville history.
No wonder he loved his job so much.
David Hall dealt with the music he loved, every single day of his life. And if you asked him about his job, he’d tell you, in words that almost seemed to echo Lou Gehrig's, “…I feel like the luckiest man on the face of the Earth.”
See, it wasn’t about money or fame--nor even getting close to the famous.
That wasn’t Dave’s thing.
It was that thing that he’d first found with Yankees and Beatles, but which later extended to Van Halens and Stones, and much later, into making musical discoveries of his own, and going on the air to present them to his listeners--be it Drew Holcomb, One EskimO, or any other great new act.
A digression, if you will...
In 1993, after several years of living here part-time, I finally packed up and moved to Nashville full-time. I’d been on the radio for two decades already, and (call it a mid-life crisis) after years and years of hiding my first love (songwriting) during interviews with other writers and celebrities, I decided to try my own hand at performing again.
I was merrily going along with my Bluebird Café gigs, when one day I got a call from Ray Skibitsky, my old boss at Boulder’s KBCO.
“Peter, I’ve got a guy you should meet in radio, there in Nashville.”
“Why, Ray? I’m retired from radio.”
“Listen, I told him you’d call him. Just do it. You don’t have to do anything, just call him. He wants to meet you.”
That was in the late spring of ’93, and by year’s end, we’d come to an agreement. I would revive ‘Sunday Night with Peter Rodman’ exactly as I had done it for years at KBCO, with no limits or interference, as a contracted show, leased to the station on a one-time basis each week, retaining full ownership of any content I'd created. No taxes, no meetings, no "employee," no answering to anyone but the owner of Lightning 100.
In other words...as long as I didn't have to play 'grown up!'
[End of digression; thank you for your indulgence.]
I was scheduled to begin doing SNPR on 'Radio Lightning' on February 7, 1994--30 years (to the day!) after the Beatles had landed in New York City, an irony not lost on me at all.
Then, in early December of 1993, Frank Zappa died.
Ned Horton (Lightning’s co-owner) and myself decided that we would move my start-date up, to accommodate some sort of 'Frank Zappa Tribute'--which I would hastily assemble from existing interviews I’d done with Frank, over the years.
All well and good, but I hadn’t a clue as to how to work any of this new radio station’s equipment!
Ned asked around, and there was only one guy curious enough to volunteer to ‘train’ me, while we cobbled together something that would both introduce me to the listeners and suitably honor Frank, for all his (notoriously rabid) fans.
That guy was David Hall.
As we nervously shook hands and got started, David graciously and gently began to ‘show me the ropes,’ and helped me work the unfamiliar machines, and we tried to sort through the many Zappa interviews I owned, some from a full decade before.
At some point during the process, after at least an hour of sweating in an airless, windowless production room full of tape recorders, we “lost” all the work we‘d just done.
Poof! Gone.
The looks on our faces were of complete horror, knowing we’d have to start all over again, from scratch. But within just a few seconds we both began laughing hysterically, irreverently pretending to talk to the deceased ‘interviewee’ right then and there (“Come ON, Frank!!!”) and before long, these two guys--who’d met only once before, and knew nothing about each other--were uncontrollably howling, in that sort of 'silent-scream' laughter that makes you hold your sides in pain, getting up and walking away and sitting back down again, just to try to control your bladder--almost dancing around the room, like lunatics!
Neither of us had ever had so much fun in a radio production room, before.
The laughter had brought tears to our faces, and the notion that those poor Frank Zappa fans would never know what went on in there is probably all for the better, looking back on it. (In truth, from my experiences with him, I’m betting Frank would’ve been on our side, here!)
Anyway, the radio special got done--in no small part due to David's dedication to helping some guy he didn’t even know, a guy (me) who walked into that studio a stranger, and walked out a "friend for life."
From that day to this, we had an unbreakable bond.
And now, almost 20 years later, I am humbled and grateful just to say that David Hall was my friend.
Okay…I’m gonna have to stop soon.
I actually thought this would be easier than it’s turning out to be. But if you’ll bear with me for just a few more paragraphs, I’d like to recall another few tender moments that signify so much about the man I knew and loved.
Though he was never one to show too much affection at first, I watched that change over the years. This past Christmas, Dave dropped by my home to hand me a card personally…and right before he left, he gave me a big bear hug, and said “I love you.”
To be honest it took me back for a second, and I wondered if everything was alright. But I finally decided it was just another of those 'surprises' that shouldn’t surprise me at all, knowing David.
I have lots of stuff around here that he just gave me out-of-the-blue, and he has the same from me. We didn’t actually talk all that often, but we didn’t really have to. We were always 'one-upping' each other with little surprises, tickled to know somebody else was tickled by all the same exact 'stuff.'
If I was in New York, did you think he wasn’t going to get something directly from Yankee Stadium?
If he had tickets to see ‘The Concert for George,’ did you think he wasn’t going to ask me along?
Just last night, I found a CD he’d produced expressly for me about five years ago, called 'Surprise, Surprise’--a compilation of the very best Beatles pressings and masters available, back then. It must have taken him hours to find just the right tracks off the right discs and LPs.
He was so enamored of my annual Christmas compilations that for years he’d send me suggestions ("...for next year's disc?" he'd write).
That is who Dave was:
“How can I make YOU better?”
And when I made a serious blunder (read: brain fart!) on a Facebook 'Beatle post' last year, Dave very gently reminded me that “Don’t Let Me Down” was the flip side of “Get Back,” not “Hey Jude.”
I was mortified!
It meant a lot to me that I not make such a basic, doofy mistake in front of Dave--but he actually turned it around to make me feel better, writing “I actually knew you knew that, but I kept checking and re-checking my records, just to make sure I was right--because I was sure you’d know some clever little secret that I might have missed!”
Nope. Not true, Dave!
But in that, I did learn another little secret:
I learned how far you would go to protect me--more than once. I’ve only given little examples here, but there are others, believe me.
When I claimed (on facebook) that the government had been paid back in full for the GM bailout, David (correctly) corrected me. Yes, though few people knew it, David Hall kept up on the minutiae of politics with the best of ‘em!
Most peoples’ interests probably intersect somewhat; ours were a virtually-identical lock.
This will be inartfully put, I know…but I never knew how deeply David cared about me, until I began finding e-mails that said, “Check your windshield," and there’d be an amazing package containing some CD he’d made 'specially for me, out in my driveway on a rainy night.
His wonderful wife Trish told me just yesterday, about how Dave actually drove her by my (nothing-special-to-look-at) house one time, just to show her where I lived.
“Why didn’t y’all come in and say hello?” I wondered.
“Oh, I don’t know," she said, "he said he just wanted me to see it.”
Paul Simon was another thing we had in common, and of course it doesn’t hurt that the guy wears Yankee caps a lot, either. David marveled at my stories of meeting Simon & Garfunkel as a kid, and we'd even gone to see them reunite, a few years back. But again, we rarely picked up a phone…we just liked to surprise each other.
So last summer, David sends me a message:
“You busy this Thursday?”
“No…why?”
“Well, I might be able to get Paul Simon tickets…”
Turns out, he had talked it over with Trish, and she had graciously said, “You guys oughta go!”
I showed up at Merchants an hour beforehand, per our tradition, and after a drink and some food he said mischievously, “Gee…I hope these seats don’t suck!”
Now we were virtually race-walking toward the Ryman…like…well...like two little kids, on the way to the ballpark!
“Hey,” I said with my 'adult' faux-confident air, “Don’t worry about whereever the tickets are! There’s not a bad seat in the house!”
We might as well have been 10.
“We’ll see about that!” David said, feigning pessimism.
I wondered why he’d even care about what seats we had at all--that wasn’t like him. Pretty soon we were inside, being ushered down toward our seats:
Not in the first few rows...Not even in the first row!
No...ours were among a group of about 12 folding chairs--set up, center-stage--
in front of the first row!!!
I’d been to dozens of Ryman shows before, believe me--but I never suspected we’d be lookin’ up Paul Simon’s nose the whole night!
It was to become the best concert in a lifetime of concert-going, for me.
He’d known all along where the seats were; it was all a part of his sneaky little 'plan!'
We were so close to the stage, I felt too guilty to even use my camera or my fLiP very much--because poor ol' Simon could see little else but us, in front of the footlights!
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I'm not here to write an obituary; I'm sure you can find that somewhere else. I'm just here to try to share a very personal story about some of the crazy, disconnected-but-connected events that led two very unlikely strangers from completely different parts of the country to somehow become "friends for life."And to do that I'll need to ask your patience, as I'm apt to ramble through my grief.
This-here's a fresh wound.
But if you'd like to save a lotta time, and you just need to know right now what exactly the point is here...
Here's the Short Version:
It's that we are all basically children, at heart. And when you can find the child behind a friend's eyes, then you've really found that person.
[End of Short Version. Read on at your own risk...it's long.]
I have always believed that almost anything we do as 'adults' is complete and total fakery. I've never met a man at any kind of business meeting that wasn't puttin' on airs. Not once.
And all too rarely do you ever meet a man who's willing to shed all that pretense, and just concentrate on sharing his humanity. So it is in that context that I invite you to share in just a little bit of the unfettered joy that was my friend, David Hall.
Dave grew up in Murray, Kentucky…about an hour outside of Paducah toward Nashville, but you wouldn't exactly drive it that way. You might have to back-track some, and (these days) get on the interstate.
He was raised to be humble and he stayed that way--happy just to be an All-American boy who loved baseball, rock ‘n’ roll, and yes...apple pie. Probably millions of other kids Dave’s age shared the same heroes and aspirations, but not so many followed their dreams with such a quietly accurate, easy-going compass.
I grew up about 30 miles from Yankee Stadium, in a town appropriately named “Plainview,” on Long Island. But it might as well have been 1,000 miles away--just like Dave's hometown was--because we never much went to 'the City' anyway. (To be fair to my Dad, he did take me to see a couple of games during the iconic 1961 season...but we invariably left early, to "beat the traffic.")
The point is, whether you were stuck on Long Island or stuck in Murray didn’t matter at all.
All that really mattered to anybody we knew as kids were two people:
1.) Mickey Mantle.
2.) Roger Maris.
Done. That's it.
Nothing else seemed to matter, on those long summer days with baseball gloves and whiffle balls, marking the outer reaches of imaginary 'Yankee Stadiums' in the dirt, hoping to hit the ball over that line just once--and if you did, to trot around the bases affecting Mickey’s trademark hop-a-long limp as if it were your own, which was how you took a bow, whether in Murray, or Plainview, or Peoria, or any other town you choose.
Little boys everywhere knew the name “Mickey Mantle.”
They knew the number 7 then, and they can still tell a fake jersey from a real one (no serifs on that '7', man) and they knew that if you wanted to be like Roger Maris (#9) you had to crop your short shirt-sleeves way up high, to show those goofy 9 year old “guns” of yours.
When the 'game' was over, either your Mom or Grandma would have sandwiches ready, and if your 4th grade homework was done and it was still light out, there just might be time to go flip some baseball cards--a case study in childhood gambling, yes--but also to pore over the details on the backs of those cards---so that by the end of the day, you not only knew who Enos Slaughter and Moose Skowron and Bobby Richardson and Hector Lopez were, but what they batted last year, how many triples they’d hit, and precisely where they fell in the latest Yankee lineup.
And darn, if those Yankees didn’t keep on winnin' every year!
That should put you in the general time-frame of our childhoods.
It was right about then that David Hall of Murray, Kentucky decided he was going to be a lifelong Yankee fan. After all, Mickey Mantle himself grew up in Oklahoma, a fact known by every kid in the South. (Surely, little David had no idea that if you drove due-west on Rural Route 60 from Murray and you just kept on going for about 8 hours, you'd land plumb-in-the-middle of Mickey's boyhood neighborhood, in the little miners' town called Commerce.)
But that was the thing:
For most kids, Mickey Mantle didn't really live anywhere...except in dreams.
And that was right where we wanted him to stay.
Life was good.
Few things outside of baseball ever got the attention of a 9 year old, back then--certainly no ‘current events,’ which was the term for news, at the time.
But all that changed on November 22, 1963, with the Kennedy assassination.
That was the first time (for most of us) that the headlines ever came crashing into our living rooms, with a force we could not ignore.
Our parents did everything they could do, to make Christmas of 1963 a good one--but a definite pall hung over the whole nation, as though not just the President, but youth itself had been shot and killed. And now, some 'old man' took over as President--so here we all were, stuck kind of growing up, but not really there yet.
Most of the ‘playing’ that a kid could do in western Kentucky during that winter involved imagining yourself as an astronaut, or The Man from U.N.C.L.E., or maybe ‘My Favorite Martian.’ That December and January were even chillier than usual, in Murray. It got all the way down near zero a couple times.
But there came a day--and Dave could tell you this, and his eyes would light up when he did--when the skies opened up, and everything became clear again.
Like so many millions of kids in towns all across America, David’s life changed on February 9, 1964. I don’t even have to tell most of you what happened on that date, but from the very first note they played on The Ed Sullivan Show, the Beatles seemed to reach right through those round, black-and-white television sets, and into our living rooms. They called it 'the British Invasion,' but in a very real sense, nearly every kid in America was abducted by rock 'n' roll aliens that night.
Our parents were somewhere between flummoxed and dismissive…but that made it even better!
Within hours, every boy who’d seen it was standing in front of a bathroom mirror, quietly combing their hair the opposite way, to check out how this Beatle haircut might look on them. One can only imagine how many parents stood outside the door on that particular Sunday night, demanding to know "What's going on, in there?"
David Hall's house was no exception.
Those Beatle records would arrive in our local stores soon enough, and promises were made ("Please, Mom! I've got to have it!") allowances advanced, and deals struck--if only to have a copy of “I Want to Hold Your Hand” b/w "I Saw Her Standing There" inside the house, to call your very own.
Not being able to afford more than one or two 45s at first, David Hall found himself glued to his transistor radio.
They were staying where? Which one had tonsillitis? Who wrote “Roll Over Beethoven?”
Studying the backs of album covers eventually replaced studying the backs of baseball cards. David was hooked; not uncommon, this.
In fact, it was about as ‘All-American’ as it gets--and it would suit David Hall just fine, to hear that.
Never sure this newfound fascination with music was a ‘career’ thing per say, he eventually graduated high school and enrolled at Murray State University, near enough to home to honor his family roots and look after his obligations as a devoted 'only' son. Then too, MSU was just ‘gone’ enough, for him to look around and see what else the world had to offer.
Unlike many kids, he didn’t seek to travel the world, or amaze anybody with his accomplishments at all. David didn’t even really have a ‘major’ that first year, anyway.
All he knew was that he had fallen in love…with music.
All those nights listening to his transistor radio at home had seen David learning the names of radio big-shots from St. Louis and Nashville, and sometimes Chicago, if the weather was right.
The best thing about Murray State was that it had an actual radio station! He inevitably gravitated to it, putting in his time as a volunteer, until the fateful day when he very nervously switched that microphone to“ON.” They’d even been thoughtful enough to hang an electric ON THE AIR sign, over the door.
"One of the first things I ever said on a 100 thousand watt FM radio station came right after Jack Buck said, 'We pause 10 seconds for station identification. This is the St. Louis Cardinals baseball network,'" David recalled. "I opened the mic in our rarely-used-for-anything-live FM studio and said, 'WAAW-FM, Murray, Kentucky.'"
That was "it" for David Hall.
There’d be no more looking back.
His polite manner had more appeal than he ever knew, and not being one to assume anything, David really didn’t pursue the girls or the party life that much--at least not with near the gusto of his rowdy freshman friends. Oh sure, he’d tag along…but if you wanted his opinion, he’d damn well make sure it was safe to share it, one-on-one, and even then he was not one to cause a controversy, if at all possible.
It just wasn’t in his raising.
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| David Hall, Peter Rodman, and Fred Buc of Lightning 100, at Boulder Falls--August, 1994. I got to show them around my old hometown, during a radio convention there. |
Only in that place did David Hall finally find his own voice--and only there, could he make the world the way he wanted it to be.
Others were slaves to fashion, drugs, or danger--but only talking to “that one person out there” brought any real sparkle to the lanky hometown guy, in that faded ol’ Yankee t-shirt.
David Hall was a great son and an only child, whose many cousins today mourn the loss of a childhood pal and confidante, but all would agree--especially Dave--that he was truly ‘born’ on the day he first switched on a radio microphone.
At first imitating the jocks he’d grown up with, he eventually found a voice he liked, listening intently in headphones (a practice he continued throughout his career, always tweaking the sound to perfection) and it was more self-assured than anything he’d ever heard himself say or do before.
He had truly found his home, 'on the air.'
Not that he particularly aspired to any great ‘career heights.'
He wasn’t at all intent, as so many radio dudes are, on jumping from town-to-town just to get ‘bigger’ in bigger markets, until he was ‘King of the Hill.’
(Don’t get me wrong; those are admirable goals indeed, but they weren’t Dave’s goals.)
David Hall’s goals were as simple and as humble as Dave himself:
To be able to touch one listener;
To share as much of the great rock music he loved with as many people as possible;
To avoid insult and controversy, while providing a righteously safe ‘haven’ for his fellow music freaks, known and unknown;
…and perhaps most of all…
To find in his own voice that trusted and steady hand he could believe, himself.
It was David's great gift to everyone he knew and loved, that he worked hard enough to actually become that man.
By the end of his life, he had achieved it all, in full...and yes, "what you heard was what you got."
Never ‘cool’ in that amphibious way that FM DJs can be, but never ‘hot’ in the grating manner of a controversy-seeker, David Hall on the air just seemed to want to be friends.That may account for why so many hearts are broken today, in Nashville and Western Kentucky, and beyond. Even casual listeners felt like they had a friend in David Hall--and the truth is, they did.
If he had an exclusive interview or a brand new record to debut, his manner was never in the realm of “Here comes my Exclusive!”
Rather, it was like your best mate sharing something because he loved you.
“…I just got something very interesting in the mail, this morning…what’ll you hear this!”
He could barely contain his excitement, yes…but it had nothing to do with self-aggrandizement. In fact, to know David personally, you'd hardly guess that his tenure in rock radio was the all-time longest run in Nashville history.
No wonder he loved his job so much.
David Hall dealt with the music he loved, every single day of his life. And if you asked him about his job, he’d tell you, in words that almost seemed to echo Lou Gehrig's, “…I feel like the luckiest man on the face of the Earth.”
See, it wasn’t about money or fame--nor even getting close to the famous.
That wasn’t Dave’s thing.
It was that thing that he’d first found with Yankees and Beatles, but which later extended to Van Halens and Stones, and much later, into making musical discoveries of his own, and going on the air to present them to his listeners--be it Drew Holcomb, One EskimO, or any other great new act.
A digression, if you will...
In 1993, after several years of living here part-time, I finally packed up and moved to Nashville full-time. I’d been on the radio for two decades already, and (call it a mid-life crisis) after years and years of hiding my first love (songwriting) during interviews with other writers and celebrities, I decided to try my own hand at performing again.
I was merrily going along with my Bluebird Café gigs, when one day I got a call from Ray Skibitsky, my old boss at Boulder’s KBCO.
“Peter, I’ve got a guy you should meet in radio, there in Nashville.”
“Why, Ray? I’m retired from radio.”
“Listen, I told him you’d call him. Just do it. You don’t have to do anything, just call him. He wants to meet you.”
That was in the late spring of ’93, and by year’s end, we’d come to an agreement. I would revive ‘Sunday Night with Peter Rodman’ exactly as I had done it for years at KBCO, with no limits or interference, as a contracted show, leased to the station on a one-time basis each week, retaining full ownership of any content I'd created. No taxes, no meetings, no "employee," no answering to anyone but the owner of Lightning 100.
In other words...as long as I didn't have to play 'grown up!'
[End of digression; thank you for your indulgence.]
I was scheduled to begin doing SNPR on 'Radio Lightning' on February 7, 1994--30 years (to the day!) after the Beatles had landed in New York City, an irony not lost on me at all.
Then, in early December of 1993, Frank Zappa died.
Ned Horton (Lightning’s co-owner) and myself decided that we would move my start-date up, to accommodate some sort of 'Frank Zappa Tribute'--which I would hastily assemble from existing interviews I’d done with Frank, over the years.
All well and good, but I hadn’t a clue as to how to work any of this new radio station’s equipment!
Ned asked around, and there was only one guy curious enough to volunteer to ‘train’ me, while we cobbled together something that would both introduce me to the listeners and suitably honor Frank, for all his (notoriously rabid) fans.
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| Lindsey Buckingham (of Fleetwood Mac) with David Hall |
As we nervously shook hands and got started, David graciously and gently began to ‘show me the ropes,’ and helped me work the unfamiliar machines, and we tried to sort through the many Zappa interviews I owned, some from a full decade before.
At some point during the process, after at least an hour of sweating in an airless, windowless production room full of tape recorders, we “lost” all the work we‘d just done.
Poof! Gone.
The looks on our faces were of complete horror, knowing we’d have to start all over again, from scratch. But within just a few seconds we both began laughing hysterically, irreverently pretending to talk to the deceased ‘interviewee’ right then and there (“Come ON, Frank!!!”) and before long, these two guys--who’d met only once before, and knew nothing about each other--were uncontrollably howling, in that sort of 'silent-scream' laughter that makes you hold your sides in pain, getting up and walking away and sitting back down again, just to try to control your bladder--almost dancing around the room, like lunatics!
Neither of us had ever had so much fun in a radio production room, before.
The laughter had brought tears to our faces, and the notion that those poor Frank Zappa fans would never know what went on in there is probably all for the better, looking back on it. (In truth, from my experiences with him, I’m betting Frank would’ve been on our side, here!)
Anyway, the radio special got done--in no small part due to David's dedication to helping some guy he didn’t even know, a guy (me) who walked into that studio a stranger, and walked out a "friend for life."
From that day to this, we had an unbreakable bond.
And now, almost 20 years later, I am humbled and grateful just to say that David Hall was my friend.
Okay…I’m gonna have to stop soon.
I actually thought this would be easier than it’s turning out to be. But if you’ll bear with me for just a few more paragraphs, I’d like to recall another few tender moments that signify so much about the man I knew and loved.
Though he was never one to show too much affection at first, I watched that change over the years. This past Christmas, Dave dropped by my home to hand me a card personally…and right before he left, he gave me a big bear hug, and said “I love you.”
To be honest it took me back for a second, and I wondered if everything was alright. But I finally decided it was just another of those 'surprises' that shouldn’t surprise me at all, knowing David.
I have lots of stuff around here that he just gave me out-of-the-blue, and he has the same from me. We didn’t actually talk all that often, but we didn’t really have to. We were always 'one-upping' each other with little surprises, tickled to know somebody else was tickled by all the same exact 'stuff.'
If I was in New York, did you think he wasn’t going to get something directly from Yankee Stadium?
If he had tickets to see ‘The Concert for George,’ did you think he wasn’t going to ask me along?
Just last night, I found a CD he’d produced expressly for me about five years ago, called 'Surprise, Surprise’--a compilation of the very best Beatles pressings and masters available, back then. It must have taken him hours to find just the right tracks off the right discs and LPs.
He was so enamored of my annual Christmas compilations that for years he’d send me suggestions ("...for next year's disc?" he'd write).
That is who Dave was:
“How can I make YOU better?”
And when I made a serious blunder (read: brain fart!) on a Facebook 'Beatle post' last year, Dave very gently reminded me that “Don’t Let Me Down” was the flip side of “Get Back,” not “Hey Jude.”
I was mortified!
It meant a lot to me that I not make such a basic, doofy mistake in front of Dave--but he actually turned it around to make me feel better, writing “I actually knew you knew that, but I kept checking and re-checking my records, just to make sure I was right--because I was sure you’d know some clever little secret that I might have missed!”
Nope. Not true, Dave!
But in that, I did learn another little secret:
I learned how far you would go to protect me--more than once. I’ve only given little examples here, but there are others, believe me.
When I claimed (on facebook) that the government had been paid back in full for the GM bailout, David (correctly) corrected me. Yes, though few people knew it, David Hall kept up on the minutiae of politics with the best of ‘em!
Most peoples’ interests probably intersect somewhat; ours were a virtually-identical lock.
This will be inartfully put, I know…but I never knew how deeply David cared about me, until I began finding e-mails that said, “Check your windshield," and there’d be an amazing package containing some CD he’d made 'specially for me, out in my driveway on a rainy night.
His wonderful wife Trish told me just yesterday, about how Dave actually drove her by my (nothing-special-to-look-at) house one time, just to show her where I lived.
“Why didn’t y’all come in and say hello?” I wondered.
“Oh, I don’t know," she said, "he said he just wanted me to see it.”
Paul Simon was another thing we had in common, and of course it doesn’t hurt that the guy wears Yankee caps a lot, either. David marveled at my stories of meeting Simon & Garfunkel as a kid, and we'd even gone to see them reunite, a few years back. But again, we rarely picked up a phone…we just liked to surprise each other.
So last summer, David sends me a message:
“You busy this Thursday?”
“No…why?”
“Well, I might be able to get Paul Simon tickets…”
Turns out, he had talked it over with Trish, and she had graciously said, “You guys oughta go!”
I showed up at Merchants an hour beforehand, per our tradition, and after a drink and some food he said mischievously, “Gee…I hope these seats don’t suck!”
Now we were virtually race-walking toward the Ryman…like…well...like two little kids, on the way to the ballpark!
“Hey,” I said with my 'adult' faux-confident air, “Don’t worry about whereever the tickets are! There’s not a bad seat in the house!”
We might as well have been 10.
“We’ll see about that!” David said, feigning pessimism.
I wondered why he’d even care about what seats we had at all--that wasn’t like him. Pretty soon we were inside, being ushered down toward our seats:
Not in the first few rows...Not even in the first row!
No...ours were among a group of about 12 folding chairs--set up, center-stage--
in front of the first row!!!
I’d been to dozens of Ryman shows before, believe me--but I never suspected we’d be lookin’ up Paul Simon’s nose the whole night!
It was to become the best concert in a lifetime of concert-going, for me.
He’d known all along where the seats were; it was all a part of his sneaky little 'plan!'
We were so close to the stage, I felt too guilty to even use my camera or my fLiP very much--because poor ol' Simon could see little else but us, in front of the footlights!
And even though I later gave Dave several framed 8x10 photographs I'd taken of Simon that night, I was blown away to see one little item he'd scanned for his Facebook page, as another kind of memento:
With Dave, it was all about the gift; he knew what mattered was just the act of kindness.
Watching this masterful performer at the very top of his game (and I’ve seen every Paul Simon incarnation, believe me) was a marvel. We must have nudged each other a hundred times, remarking about everything from the arrangements, to the half-dozen 'guitar techs' moving stealthily about, onstage. To see us from a fly-on-the-ceiling view, you’d think you were watching two kids, giggling with utter delight--just about the same way 10 year old boys might, if they ever got close enough to see their baseball hero ‘hit for the cycle.’
It was that special.
As the show drew to a close, I took one last picture of Dave--still sitting less than ten feet from Paul Simon, for cryin' out loud!
It was that special.
As the show drew to a close, I took one last picture of Dave--still sitting less than ten feet from Paul Simon, for cryin' out loud!
In it, you can clearly see Rhymin’ Simon’s sweat-soaked delight (at far left)...and to the right...that's the Kid from Murray,
Kentucky right there--beaming with pride, not over the show so much (although he truly loved it), but over the surprise he'd just pulled off, and the joy he’d just brought to a friend.
Because, hey…that’s what it’s all about, isn’t it?
What good is music, if you don’t share it?
Vince Gill once had an album called The Things That Matter, and I always thought that was a great title. Well, David Hall seemed to specialize in "the things that matter."
Like everyone else that night at the Paul Simon show, I was awestruck and wrung out at the end. Just after I took this picture, I said, “Dave, I don’t know how to even begin to thank you. You really got me, this time! Yankee Stadium, next month! On me!!! Come on, man. At least Wrigley...”
“We’ll see...sounds great!”
“I can’t believe you did this for me..”
With that, he turned to me and patted me on the shoulder.
“Why wouldn’t I, Peter? You’re my best friend!”
Words I shall never forget.
Kentucky right there--beaming with pride, not over the show so much (although he truly loved it), but over the surprise he'd just pulled off, and the joy he’d just brought to a friend.
Because, hey…that’s what it’s all about, isn’t it?
What good is music, if you don’t share it?
Vince Gill once had an album called The Things That Matter, and I always thought that was a great title. Well, David Hall seemed to specialize in "the things that matter."
Like everyone else that night at the Paul Simon show, I was awestruck and wrung out at the end. Just after I took this picture, I said, “Dave, I don’t know how to even begin to thank you. You really got me, this time! Yankee Stadium, next month! On me!!! Come on, man. At least Wrigley...”
“We’ll see...sounds great!”
“I can’t believe you did this for me..”
With that, he turned to me and patted me on the shoulder.
“Why wouldn’t I, Peter? You’re my best friend!”
Words I shall never forget.
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My heart goes with Trish, Sean, and the rest of David’s extended family. I've written too many words I know, but in truth, no words can describe this loss for them. My prayers are with you all, and always with Dave.
Also, to the staff of Lightning 100, past and present, as well as all of Dave’s other radio friends and industry pals, listeners, fans, and admirers from afar.
Your affections were never wasted; David would want you all to know that.
When it comes to being truly humble and doing the right things for all the right reasons, we can all take a lesson or two, from the David Hall playbook.
David Hall ROCKS, Y’all!
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Copyright 2012 by Peter Rodman. All Rights Reserved.
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Here's a clip from the 1962 movie Safe at Home, familiar to all Mantle & Maris fans, which brought our Yankee heroes to the Big Screen:
And the Beatles' historic debut on 'The Ed Sullivan Show', just as it aired on February 9, 1964:
Life-affirming moments we both loved, for sure...
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